This isn’t that blow by blow bio checking off my years of arduous and distinguished training, baiting you into a fudged recital of me and how overqualified I am. Why is that attractive? It’s not who you’d be emailing with, talking to, meeting with, or working with. It’s not honest. It’s not me.
This round I’m shit canning all of it, especially the fear, the people pleasing and desperation to be liked. I’m replacing it with some unbridled truth and a dash of vulnerability.
A piece of advice my dad shoved at me; ‘…die having experienced as many things as you can.’ It made some sense and stuck to a pissed off teen way back when. Through the years it’s provided clarity. Today it makes more sense than ever, it’s become a principle I live by.
So, I jotted down a list. Quickly. Before the OCD editor in my head could step in and sack it all. Ten life experiences that hold personal and emotional weight. Ten, some important, some trivial, all a genuine sliver of who I am. Not in order…
1. Setting foot in every state, eleven countries, and five continents.
2. Taking my first walk the day Neil Armstrong said, ‘One small step for mankind…’
3. At age twenty-two, finally saying I wasn’t a virgin, and not lying.
4. Blowing up a country club pool with ‘things curated’ from chemistry class.
5. Twenty-five years of marriage.
6. Punk Rock and The Bones Brigade saving me.
7. Dumb-luck plugging me into photography. It changing my life forever.
8. My family moving into an RV when I was eight.
9. At the first snowboard camp ever, meeting the love of my life.
10. Pissing off my parents when I chose the military instead of college.
Did it work? The list vs. CV? Did it pull back the curtain, show you enough of the real me? If not, to hell with it. Maybe the CV works better?
It’s okay. To be honest this thing is pretty long. If it were me I might have only made it two thirds of the way through. You’re probably not still reading at this point? That’s cool, I got to the meat of everything in the first few paragraphs but I should still tie it up.
This Guy’s summary: ‘If I could do it all again I wouldn’t change a thing.’ People who say that have lost their minds. If I could do it over again, I wouldn’t do it the same, but I’m happy I did it. Life, you don’t figure it out. You live it. If I died right now I’d die grateful, and happy, for my entire list I’ve lived to now. Can you say the same?
Live easy and die happy!